I didn’t know this until I got older but when I was younger I was always looking for some thing or someone outside of myself to save me, to help me, to rescue me. I’ve come along way since then. I’ve also seen some residual effects from this earlier habit when it comes to what we expect from other people. We can get upset with people because we feel like they don’t recognize us or acknowledge us or actually value us, especially when we feel like we deserve it.
And what I’ve discovered for myself is that, we’re really just upset and frustrated with ourselves for giving someone else the responsibility to give us something that only we can give ourselves. Which at the end of the day is self acceptance, self appreciation and self-love.
There’s this quote that I heard Oprah give in one of her master classes and it goes like this. “You are responsible for your life. If you’re sitting around waiting on somebody to save you, fix you, to even help, you you’re wasting your time. Only you have the power to move your life forward.” That really hit home for me. When I heard those words, I felt heard and guided.
Today my mantra is “I am responsible for my life. I have decided to no longer look for someone else to save me. Today I choose to see my true identity and embrace my God-given power, and that is that I am the only person responsible for my own life.”